Befuddled...

So, I have friends that are single, friends that are married, friends that are separated, and friends that are going through divorce (or have already suffered those final 60 days of marriage).   It's always a relief when I only know one side of the equation because it can be awkward talking to either party.  (Yes, I know that's selfish...)

To my single friends my advice is that you wait until GOD presents you with the perfect mate (and you'll know he/she is the perfect mate because he/she will feel the same way). 

To my married friends, please keep GOD in the center of your relationship!  Talk to each other and show your love to one another daily.  When you can't speak to one another anymore, it's too late!  (Oh, and don't get your friends involved in the middle of your affairs; even the friends that "want" to know and continue to ask questions - don't tell them anything!  In the end it's just simply not fair to your friends.)

To my separated friends, I pray that you will be able to work things out and get back to that place where you once loved each other and everything was fresh!  GOD can help you do that if you'll let Him.

And to my divorced friends, I do not judge you now, nor will I ever judge you.  But it is also not fair for you to judge me for choosing to remain neutral concerning your relationship with your ex.  Further, if I choose to remain friendly with both parties, that should be okay too.  I can assure you that I won't discuss either of you with the other party. 

This post wasn't aimed at any one person/couple in particular...I've just realized how blessed I am to have a husband that loves me unconditionally (warts and all) and I'm sad for my friends that rush into something they're not really ready for, and for my friends that are ready to rush out of something they're not really ready for.  That's all! 

If you noticed, the common theme in this post was "GOD."  I do believe that He is capable and WILLING to heal any marriage, strengthen any soul, and unite the man and woman that are made for each other!  We just have to be smart enough (and close enough in our walk with Jesus) to know when to ask for it...